Life doesn’t give you do-overs

You know that we only get one chance at this life, there is no do-over, there’s no repeat…but we can take today, this very moment and move forward, take charge of our life and take charge of our bodies. However, you have an opportunity every day to take this moment, right now, to move forward and change your life.

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With the start of a New Year, many look at it as a new beginning, a restart, a chance to real new goals. What are your goals for your life?

Have you tried this restart thing before? Has it worked, but then maybe it stopped working? You know what, you only fail when you quit. As long as you keep trying, you have a chance to get it right…right? So let’s start by asking a few questions.

1. What is it that you want? Do you know, or are you still figuring it out?
2. What have you done in the past and what’s either worked or not worked for you. Write it down.
3. What are you doing for accountability?

Those are just a few questions to get you started. Of course, the list could be endless, but somewhere in there you will find the answers. Contrary to popular belief, I don’t think that there is any one answer for everyone. question-mark redThere is no cookie-cutter that will work for everyone. You have to figure out what works for you and what doesn’t work for you. Where do you start? What questions do you ask?Well, seeking the help of a professional can be a start. But what kind of professional? See…more questions.

Let me tell you about me and a little of how I came up with the answers that worked for me. Naturally, as I said, there is no one set of answers, so what worked for me, might not work for you. But perhaps I can help you come up with your own unique set of answers. I was overweight as a child, obese as a young teen and morbidly obese in my later teen years and well into my adult life. I tried. I tried over and over and over again to lose weight, but nothing I did worked. As a child, of course I didn’t control what was purchased from the store, what meals were made, I ate what was put in front of me. But I also ate for emotional reasons and my need for something to make me feel good…I ate for self-love.

As an adult, my reasons for eating were different…depression, boredom, more self-love, anything to take away the emotional and mental anguish that I was going through. At the same time, I yearned to lose weight because it was the very thing that was causing the depression, the boredom and the lack of loving myself. Over the course of my lifetime, I bet I’ve lost and gained hundreds of pounds, if not more. The earliest I remember going to a gym, I was less than 10 years old, I only know this because my Grand-Mother died when I was 10 and she was the one who paid for me to go to the gym. I don’t recall when she passed away, but it was soon after and then my trips to the gym ended.

As a teen, with the help of a friends family, I lost weight again when I was living at their house. I was living there because my parents who were divorcing were battling over who was going to end up with me. I guess neither one wanted me to interfere with their new lives. My mother won…my father disappeared from my life. But, while I was living with my friend, her name was Michele Hawk, I lost weight. Her mom was so supportive and so awesome and really helpful. I remember her fondly, but I don’t remember her name. Once I moved in with my mother and step-father, I gained all the weight back. A lot happened over the next year or so, a story for another day, but all the weight I had lost while living with Michele and her family, I gained back.

Over the years, with one bad circumstance after another, I gained and gained and lost weight over and over again. I gained more than I lost. And with each pound gained, my self confidence, self esteem and self worth would plummet further and further. Fast forward from my teens and into my adult life and I find myself stepping on the scale in a Medi-Fast Weight Loss Center and topping the scales at 389 lbs. In fact, they had to use a special scale on my, because back then, doctors scales only went up to 300 lbs and I was well above. I truly believe that at some point in my life I was well over 400, I just don’t have any doctor’s notes, or memories of being weighed to prove that.

When I got married the first time, I was in the upper 300’s, probably 375 or so. I married for all of the wrong reasons, again a story I will save for another day. I talked myself into being in love, but I really just wanted to be wanted. My weight fluctuated and finally I found something, not the most healthy, but I found a way to lose weight. I was basically starving myself. I did however get down all the way to 160! I also grew up during that marriage, learned a lot about myself, gained some self-confidence, self-esteem and realized it wasn’t what I wanted out of my life. I came to that realization about 4 years into the marriage, years before I lost the weight, it took me another 8 years to lose the weight and find the strength to leave. But then, I gained all of the weight back once again, back to over 300 lbs, almost back to where I started. And talk about fast! I gained all that weight back in no time.

I found a program called LA Weight Loss and despite all of my past failures, I didn’t give up. The program worked! They showed me how starving myself was doing more harm to my body than good. They showed me how important it was to eat at certain intervals. They showed me all of the things I thought I was doing right, but it turned out I was doing wrong. They helped me in so many way and helped me find the answers that I had always been looking for. They gave me a good start, but after a year, I moved and was back on my own. Luckily, I had the important principles that I needed to continue on my journey and finally after well over 40 years of war with my body, I won!!

Now. I want to help you win your war. Whether it be weight loss, or another challenge that is keeping you stuck, I’ve been in your shoes and I became a life coach so that I can help others who are struggling, to overcome their challenges and finally succeed and achieve the goals that will bring you to where you want to be in your life.

You can do this, I know you can!! Use the button on the left side of your screen to contact me, send me an email and let’s work together. We can do that in person, on the phone, or through Skype or email. Or, you can call me at (406) 27-COACH for a free 15 minute phone consultation to schedule a one hour complimentary session and find out just how I can help you win in 2014.