Should-a, Would-a, Could-a

2014 is half over and before you know it, the New Year will be upon us! Will you have reached the goals that you said you wanted to reach when you said “Happy New Year!” on January 1, 2014? Or, will you be making the same resolutions again when 2015 rolls around, because you “shoulda” kept your commitment to yourself, but you let your resolution fall by the wayside? Perhaps you “woulda” well on your way to reaching your goal, but you put yourself last and let everyone and everything else come first? I think that it something that most people can relate to. Maybe you “coulda” done something differently and if you had, then you wouldn’t be making the same resolutions again, each year.

So, I’m not trying to make anyone feel bad about themselves here, by saying you should-a, and you could-a, or you would-a…I’m trying to make a point. Those words are synonymous with regret. I’ve said them myself and said them for many years. Even now, I find myself regretting something that I should have done differently, and if I did, I would have had a different outcome. What’s the answer to stopping the “should-a, could-a, would-a” cycle?

Well, one of the first steps is awareness. When I say awareness, I don’t mean simply saying “Oh, yes, this needs to be done.” I mean that we have to be aware that there is something we need to do and then take that even further into why we are not getting it done, or why things are not changing and what we’re allowing into our lives that is preventing us, etc., etc. There are lots of questions to be answered as to the what and why and even more important the how of being aware.

For many, many years, every New Years Eve was greeted with a resolution to change my life and for many years, my life did not change. I tried, or yes, I tried, but I always failed. However, looking back now, with the knowledge that I’ve gained over the past few years, I think to myself that I thought I was trying and perhaps at the time, since I didn’t know any better, I really did try, but now….now, I see that I was only going through the motions of trying, without doing any of the work. I know that I am not alone in this feeling and that the world is filled with people who are trying to change their lives, who are feeling trapped, or stuck in the life that they have now and who feel that there is no way out. I became a Certified Life Coach, because it was something that I needed back then and while I’ve had many positive experiences since becoming aware, I feel that all of my past experiences, all of the struggles with my weight, with bad relationships, attempted suicide, raped in college, abuse and more, give me the unique perspective to help others who are experiencing their own challenges and to help them become more aware and move forward in their lives.

Life isn’t easy, in fact it can be damn hard, but it’s how you look at things and how you react to situations that can make all of the difference in the world. My motto “Change your mind = Change your life” is so very true, because if we change our minds, if we become more aware of why we think the way we do, what causes us to make the decisions we make, or allow the people that we do into our lives and then figure out whether these decisions are beneficial to us in a positive way, or detrimental in a negative way, then we can indeed change our lives.

I could sit here and be bitter and angry about all the things that have happened in the past. I could hold onto the grudges against people who have hurt me, but really…where would that get me? Thoughts like that only keep me tied to the past and don’t allow me to live in the here and now, so that I can move forward. And, they don’t help you either.

So, let’s work together, to make a plan that will allow you to move forward in your life and stop allowing your past to dictate your future. Where you are today, does not have to define who you are tomorrow. I am available in person or via Skype, Facetime, email and even text message. If you have the will, then together we can make the way for it to happen.

I require certain things, one of which is commitment. I need a promise from you that no matter what, you will make a stand for yourself and a commitment to yourself that you are no longer going to put up with what life throws at you and you will no longer allow yourself to be beat up by life. I want a commitment that you will speak to yourself and to me with honesty and integrity. I want your heart to be in it, even if your head isn’t…because if your heart is in it, then together, we can get your head too. We can take those voices in your head, that are telling you that you can’t do it, that you’re not good enough, smart enough, pretty enough, or whatever those negative voices are saying and we can change it around. Together…we can make this commitment together. Are you ready for change? Are you willing to give me your commitment and to give it to yourself? Let’s do this…together, I am your partner.

Use the “Contact” button to the left of the screen here and send me a message, include your name, email, phone number and as much information about yourself as you want to. I look forward to hearing from you!

xoxo
Robbyn