It’s been a long week and my honey and I have worked very hard this week, so we decided to splurge a little and have some downtime at out favorite wine bar. It’s nice when you can call ahead, talk with our favorite bar keep and have a seat saved for you at what is usually a packed bar with standing room only. This is one of the reasons why it pays to be nice to people, because they in remember that and in turn are nice to you. I will never understand how people are rude to wait staff or bartenders, let alone any body…rudeness does not get you anywhere, it’s a very unpleasant trait.
I struck up a conversation with the gentleman sitting next to me and he commented about another woman sitting at the end of the bar. I glanced and noticed that she had been looking at him, so I told him that. He shrugged his shoulders, so I pushed onward and asked “What’s that mean? Shrugging shoulders?” Obviously he had noticed her, but he had a reason he would not move forward with anything more. He proceeded to tell me that he’d just gotten out of a relationship, it was hurtful to him and he couldn’t let that go. The coach in me took over and I asked him “Where’s is it getting you to stay stuck in that moment?” He admitted that it wasn’t good for him and came up with a variety of reasons why he was staying there, so I asked the question again, but this time, I added “By staying stuck in that moment, do you think you’ll be able to live in the present moment.” Again, he admitted probably not. My final question to him had something to do with living in the present moment, not letting the past keep you trapped and moving towards the future.
We talked for a few more minutes. I gave him my business card and told him “this is what I do.” He seemed like a nice guy, polite, well spoken and respectful. I hope he can move forward from the past and live in the here and now. I wished him the best of luck and left to join my honey at the movie theater where we saw “Hotel Transylvania.” It was hilarious! I needed to laugh.
But, I didn’t stop thinking about David and I realized that there are so many people who are stuck in the past, who hold on to their past hurts or failed relationships and they won’t let them go. By holding onto that, it only suffices in keeping you stuck there and you can’t live in the present moment and as a result, often miss what might be right in front of you to change your life. For him, it could have been the woman sitting at the other end of the bar, who he had given his seat up to. For those who are reading this, what is holding you stuck in the past? What’s preventing you from living in the here and now and even more important, what is preventing you from moving towards your future.
Don’t let the past keep you stuck there. I understand that while you may never forget, you must remember that you cannot change the past and by holding onto it, you can’t live in the present and you won’t be able to plan for your future.
Let me help you to break away from that hold that the past has on you. Drop me an email for a complimentary 30 minute session to talk about you and together let’s me figure out a plan to move towards your path of success. You can do it! I know you can, because I did. I was that person who was stuck in a world of negativity and darkness, to the point where I had a failed suicide attempt and had thoughts of suicide over the years after. I moved out of that world of negativity, and now I’d love it if you would give me the opportunity to help you pack up your past and move forward into your future.
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